"I Look Down On Young Women With Husbands And Kids And I’m Not Sorry" -HA!

Thanks to my husband, I read a very interesting and uninformed article today...A Blogger named Amy Glass has had some recent blog posts downing the american woman who decides to marry and have kids.

Here is the link to her blog post that has gone viral...

http://thoughtcatalog.com/amy-glass/2014/01/i-look-down-on-young-women-with-husbands-and-kids-and-im-not-sorry/

My husband and I are pretty opinionated when it comes to morals and politics (him more on the politics)  We are both people who know what we believe and know what want out of life.  I knew from a very young age…maybe 16/17 years old…I wanted to be a wife and a mom and stay home with my kids.  I wanted this, because my mom stayed with us until I was old enough for school and that choice stayed with my siblings and me.  My sister is also a stay at home mom.  My husband and I have 3 kids…very close in age…I had our first 6 days after I turned 24 and our last a month before I turned 28.  In our almost 7 year marriage I have never known anything outside being a wife and a mom.  But I truly feel like it is the most rewarding and selfless job I could ever do and I wouldn't trade it for the world…

Really…I wouldn't

Not even for a million dollars…

and a massage…

or a chance to poop without someone asking what I am doing or trying to pick the lock…

nope…not even for that!

Ok…you got me, I hate my life some days

Every night I am awakened up by someone or something…the toddler teething, the 5 year old sleep-peeing, my husband snoring or our puppy with rancid flatulence that could gag a maggot or literally wake the dead!  Every micro second of my day is filled with something that NEEDS to be done…

I start my day by being poked in the head…"mommy, blitz peed on the floor!" or "mommy, tate peed on the floor" or my favorite "mommy, I peed on the floor!"  As I crawl out of bed, I wash my face as the toddler cries over the monitor, the 3 year old poops on the toilet 2 feet from me and the 5 year old asks a list of questions, including "if girls don't have weiners…where do they pee from???"  my response…"GET OUT!"

On to downstairs, where I am praying the coffee magically is made for me…nope.  Instead a pile of dishes from last nights dinner that I didn't have time {don't mistake that for didn't want to or was too lazy to wash} I literally ran out of time and sorry dishes, you are at the bottom of my priority list.

As I make my coffee and unload and load the dishwasher I am soothed by the sounds of rude and demanding children
"I WANT EGGS!"
"I WANT OATMEAL!"
"YOU'LL GET NOTHING UNTIL YOU ASK NICELY!"
...so they got toast
And of coarse I forgot about the toddler in her crib, who has now pooped in her already heepingly full diaper of pee…I guess you get a bath!
{my hot coffee is now warm and untouched}

before I know it, it's 9:30 and I still haven't had my goddamn coffee and it's not because I didn't want to have it, or that my kids are more important…I just simply forgot amongst the chaos.

You have heard all of this before…this sob story from all moms and on tv and from comedians…"it's the hardest job ever!"  "I never have any time to myself!" and even husbands are coming out and saying "I don't know how my wife does it…she is just amazing!" -  Double BARF!

Let me clarify, for those of who aren't stay at home moms or moms and for those of you are buying into this
#feelsorryforthatpoormomwith3kidsshehasnolife
#beingamommyissohard


Being a stay at home mom IS NOT HARD!

It's NOT...

Like anything in life, the tasks, the choices, the roles we do are only as hard as you make them.  I don't like, what my husband would call "EURO-TRASH"  or "YUPPIES"  or "MODERN FEMINISTS" putting a spot light on women who choose to live the "Joan Cleaver Dream" and saying we settled and aren't as driven as career women or women who choose not to get married and have kids.  I mean, when did it become unacceptable to be a MOM!  And When did being a feminist or an activist for women's rights mean you throw away everything that a makes a woman unique and special…like child birth and a companion in marriage!?

I did not get married to avoid being alone nor did I get married to be a parasite to my husband…I got married because he has a fine ass and I fell in love with him.  I also didn't have kids to fill a void…although after you have kids you realize they were the one thing missing in your life.  And then choosing to be a stay at home mom wasn't because I was lazy or unambitious…it was a conscious decision and a way of life that we {my husband and I} both wanted.  (it was either me or daycare…somebody has got to watch them!) I have a life outside my kids and one day…I will have all the time in the world and be bored to death!  I like being "Joan Cleaver" it's not a role for everyone…but it's the one for me.

In the opposite side, people are saying that a stay at home mom  is a saint and has the hardest and most rewarding job in the world.  Why would one say a stay at home mom is a saint or has the hardest job…?
is it because she managed to keep the kids alive during the day…?
or because she managed to find clean yoga pants…?
or the fact that she hasn't showered in two days and still looks pretty good…?

There are a lot of people making moms out to be lonely and sad…yes we have bad days... but I'm sure mom's with jobs feel this same way.  Us stay at home mom's don't think our job is hard…so you shouldn't either.  Like a really good accountant…we know all the tricks to shut our kids up and keep them happy….and you don't, that's why it seems hard to you.

And being a stay at home mom is rewarding?

Rewarding???
Like, is it a cash reward???  Cuz I haven't seem one cent of that pot!
I guess we do get a pretty good tax return!
I don't know about rewarding…I guess like anything in life, teaching and seeing progress is rewarding. Leading and being a role model, providing and keeping safe…maybe the rewarding part is the payback when our kids have kids….{ooooo thats a good one!}

I think, if I could tell this Amy Glass anything, its this:

You have it all wrong.  You and many other woman are over compensating by trying your hardest to avoid marriage and motherhood.  God gave us this gift to share love with another and to give life…LIFE PEOPLE!  YOU LITERALLY GROW A PERSON…I can get a babysitter and climb a friggin' mountain tomorrow, but to grow a person…thats pretty damn cool.

And whether you stay with that little person during their growing years or help your pocket book by working…
it doesn't matter…
it all sucks.
and that is rewarding... that we all do it... do our best... don't bitch and whine…and don't ask for a hand out…
Unlike you, Amy, we aren't self-serving and narcissistic, we are parents who constantly get told " DO THIS!"  "DONT DO THAT!" " OH WAIT DO THIS NOW!"  "YOU NEED THIS"  "NO YOU DON'T!"  "THAT'S ABUSIVE!" "THATS NOT HARSH ENOUGH!"

We don't have a hard life…and We aren't conformists…And we certainly aren't unambitious…
-I had 3 friggin' kids, thats pretty ambitious! and I know people who have had more than that…GASP!

And We DEFINITELY don't want your sympathy or your criticism.

BUT!

The ONE thing I do want from you…is your phone number.

So you can babysit Saturday night.